Attraction, dating and relationships
Most dating advice is somebody’s opinion with confidence added.
This is the other kind. Every claim here names the study behind it, says where the evidence stops, and resists the urge to turn a correlation into a rule. Where a questionnaire helps more than a paragraph, there is a free one — scored in your browser, with no email field anywhere.
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Long pieces, not listicles. Most run past two thousand words because the honest version of these questions does not fit in five bullet points.
TextingTexting Habits That Quietly Push People Away
Almost every rule in this genre has never been tested. The handful of things that have been measured point somewhere else entirely.
Body LanguageWhat Body Language Actually Predicts, and What It Does Not
The largest synthesis found eleven behaviours that track liking and a list of famous ones that track nothing. Three from the second list were on this page until today.
SignsSigns She Likes You: What the Evidence Actually Supports
The behaviours are real. What no study has ever found is one that tells you which kind of liking you are looking at.
Dating11 First Date Mistakes That Quietly Kill Attraction
Mistake #8 is so common most people don't even know they're doing it.
Dating8 Signs You're in a Situationship (Not a Relationship)
Sign #6 is the one that's hardest to admit.
SignsFlirting or Just Friendly? How to Tell the Difference
The line is subtle — but these 9 signals make it readable.
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