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Attachment style test

Sixteen statements, two minutes, no email. Scored on the two dimensions the research actually uses rather than sorted into a personality type — and with the limits of the result stated up front instead of buried.

What this is. A 16-item educational adaptation of the two-dimension model from Brennan, Clark and Shaver (1998). What it is not. The validated 36-item ECR, a diagnosis, or a reason to explain away how you treat someone. If a pattern here is causing you real distress, a therapist who works with attachment will get you further than any website.
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  1. 1.I worry that people I care about will stop caring about me.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  2. 2.I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  3. 3.I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  4. 4.I find it easy to depend on a partner.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  5. 5.When someone I like takes a while to reply, I assume something is wrong.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  6. 6.I get uncomfortable when a partner wants to be very close.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  7. 7.I rarely worry about being abandoned.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  8. 8.I turn to a partner for comfort when something goes wrong.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  9. 9.I want to be very close to a partner, and that sometimes pushes people away.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  10. 10.I would rather handle a problem alone than talk it through with a partner.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  11. 11.I often compare how much I care against how much the other person seems to.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  12. 12.Talking about how I feel with a partner comes naturally.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  13. 13.I feel calm and steady in close relationships.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  14. 14.I keep a part of myself back, even in a serious relationship.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  15. 15.Small changes in a partner's mood make me anxious about the relationship.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree
  16. 16.Being emotionally close to someone feels good rather than risky.
    Strongly disagreeStrongly agree

Scored in your browser. Nothing you answer is sent anywhere or stored.

The four patterns this test can return are Secure, Anxious (preoccupied), Avoidant (dismissing), Fearful (disorganised).

Where the two dimensions come from

Attachment research started with infants and their caregivers, and moved into adult romantic relationships with Hazan and Shaver in 1987. Their first measure asked people to pick one of three paragraphs. It worked well enough to open the field, and it had an obvious problem: people do not fall neatly into three paragraphs.

Brennan, Clark and Shaver settled it in 1998 by taking a pool of 482 items covering essentially every attachment concept in the literature and factor-analysing them. Two dimensions came out, and they have held up ever since:

  • Attachment anxiety — fear of rejection and abandonment, a strong need for approval, and distress when a partner seems unavailable or unresponsive.
  • Attachment avoidance — discomfort with closeness and with depending on someone, and a preference for handling things alone.

The four familiar names are what you get when you cut both dimensions at the middle: low-low is secure, high anxiety with low avoidance is preoccupied, low anxiety with high avoidance is dismissing, and high on both is fearful. Bartholomew and Horowitz described that four-way map in 1991. It is a useful shorthand and it is still a shorthand.

Why most attachment quizzes are worse than useless

Three failure modes, and you can spot all of them in about ten seconds:

  • They ask for your email before the result. The test is the bait; you are the product. Ours scores in the browser and has no email field at all.
  • They present a category as a verdict. No score is reported, no midpoint is mentioned, and someone one point from the boundary gets the same confident label as someone at the extreme.
  • They claim to be the clinical instrument. The ECR and ECR-R are real, validated and long. A 10-item quiz that calls itself the ECR is not being careless, it is being dishonest.

The reason to care is that people make decisions with these results — about whether to stay, whether to explain themselves, whether to try. A label handed over with false confidence is worse than no label.

What to do with the result

The useful move is not to adopt the label. It is to notice the trigger. Anxious patterns fire on a specific cue — the delayed reply, the changed tone — and avoidant ones fire on a different one, usually a bid for closeness arriving faster than expected. Once you can name your own cue, the gap between the cue and what you do about it is where the choice lives.

Two pieces on this site go deeper: telling love apart from anxious attachment and why intelligent people keep choosing the same wrong person. If you scored high on both dimensions, take the fearful description seriously — that is the pattern where professional help does the most work.

Questions people ask

What are the four attachment styles?

Secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissing) and fearful (disorganised). They are not four separate types — they are the four quadrants you get from crossing two continuous dimensions, attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance, as set out by Bartholomew and Horowitz in 1991.

Is this the real ECR test?

No. The ECR by Brennan, Clark and Shaver has 36 validated items; this is a 16-item educational adaptation that follows the same two-dimension structure. It will point you in the right direction and it is not a clinical instrument. Anyone presenting a short quiz as the validated scale is overselling it.

Can your attachment style change?

Yes. Attachment patterns are relatively stable but not fixed. They shift with the relationship you are in, with major life events and with therapy. Research following people over years finds meaningful movement, which is why a result is a snapshot rather than a permanent category.

Does the test store my answers?

No. Every question is scored in your browser and nothing is transmitted or saved. There is no account, no email field and no results page with a unique URL. Close the tab and the answers are gone.

What if I score right on the boundary?

Then the label is close to arbitrary and you should read both neighbouring descriptions. The midpoint is 4 out of 7, so somebody at 3.9 and somebody at 4.1 get different names while being essentially the same. This is the cost of turning two continuous scales into four boxes.

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